Today, we want to talk about "happy." Everyone is familiar with the famous song, if you're happy, clap your hands. It has a real nice, catchy melody to it, and everybody likes singing it. Let's talk a little bit about happy. Let's talk about happy in terms of your being an extraordinary coach. Let's talk about happy in terms of your clients, that you have, who are looking for happiness.
While everyone is talking about happiness, they seldom realize the gravity of the many statements that we make, concerning happiness. For instance, we say, if we find the right person to make us happy, then, we'll have a relationship with that person. If we say that, we find the right job, to make us happy, then, we're going to take that job. Just lately, we are finding out that, as long as you don't hurt anyone, and it makes you happy, then it's okay to do it.
No matter how ridiculous the thing is, or how ridiculous the activity is, the goal is to be happy. When we make happiness our goal, we're also saying that happiness is not our present state. Since many people live their lives pursuing happiness ... And even our constitution, tells us, that we are guaranteed for life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness ... The one underlying thing that no one has talked about, up until now, is if you are looking for happiness, then what do you have now?
What do you have now? The corollary is, you're not happy, right now. If you're not happy right now, you're going to do something. People who are happy, do nothing, and that's an inferred reality, and it may even be true. What about you? Are you happy? Do you make your clients happy? Do you think that your clients could be happy without your help? As a coach ... Either being an extraordinary coach, or aspiring to be an extraordinary coach ... Happiness is not something that you must seek. Happiness is something that you must provide.
I recently was on a vacation with my wife in San Diego. We both like the Hotel Del Coronado, or the Hotel Del, which was the setting of the movie My Blue Heaven, with Steve Martin. I was standing there, looking at the store, where they have tablecloths, on sale. The tablecloths were $80, and an apron just like the tablecloth, was $40. The question is, what are you serving on the table, that the tablecloth, costs $80?
That's not the real question. The real question is, who would buy a tablecloth, that costs $80? I'll tell you who will buy a tablecloth that costs $80. That's one, a person who has $80, and two, that's a person who's going to be happy after they make the purchase.
As I'm standing watching this person purchase a tablecloth for $80, somebody walks by me with an odd looking haircut. A really odd looking haircut. If I can describe it for you, most of the hair was shaved off the head, and there was a braid ... There was just enough hair in the top of the head ... To, braid, the blond hair, coming down the back of the head. I say to my wife, it is interesting how people with "stupid" ideas, or stupid behavior, also have a gene for getting their feelings hurt.
In other words, they also have a gene for not being happy. The implication is, wearing your hair that way, would make you happy, and that's why you do it. But, the minute someone challenges the sensibility of having that haircut that way, you revert back to your normal state. Which is, not happiness. The point I want to make in this blog is, realize that the human state is one, of being unhappy. Realize that the only way that people are going to do something, generally speaking, is if they think, it's going to make them happy.
Finally, the biggest deal is, as an extraordinary coach, you must be your happiest, when you're coaching. You must be your happiest, when you're helping someone. Now mind you, you have to be happy all the time, but you're your happiest, when you're helping somebody out. When the comments start coming about doing something that's going to make you happy. Or living a life that's going to make you happy. Or purchasing something, that's going to make you happy, those of us that are coaches ... Extraordinary coaches ... We need to change that to happier, or happiest, because we have already decided in our life, that we are happy.
The dirty little secret that the people who do things and buy things, and say things, to make themselves happy, is that, the only requirement to being happy, is to decide to be happy. Let's decide to be happy as coaches, and if you don't have a coach, let's decide that getting a coach, is going to make you happy. I'm ending now ... As I like to end all of my blogs ... Have a good time, until next time.
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