Coaches Corner~Blessed

Your clients are having these sort of experiences every day, and as an extraordinary coach it would behoove you to help them be present to these sorts of experiences. Earlier I was talking with a friend and telling them how much I expect God to bless me. You may interpret this as me being a selfish person and thinking that God is my genie and he gives me what I want, but suffice it to say, I consider that God blesses me in every situation.

Several days apart, two instances concerning money impacted my thoughts about this process. It went a long way to cementing my idea that yes, God loves me and things will go my way if I meditate on the fact that God loves me and he wants me to have what I want.

I was counting change. I have a machine that counts my change for me and separates them in penny, nickels, dimes, and quarters. I was counting change because my cash flow that particular day was pretty low. I'm counting change and I have a stack of dimes. I want to complete the stack of dimes so the dime is $5. I needed two more dimes to complete this stack. I didn't have two dimes in the place where I keep all my change, so I'm thinking there's got to be two dimes around here somewhere. Either in my car or in my house there has to be two dimes.

I don't think much more about it. I go in my bathroom to brush my teeth and get ready. I notice in a tray in my vanity I guess, that's what my wife calls it, I see two dimes. Immediately I start rejoicing and I put on my happy face because God has blessed me again with yet those two dimes.

I pick up the two coins and I go back outside of my bedroom to the place where I have the coin counter, the change counter, and guess what? Those two items were not dimes at all. Now you may think that that's a small thing, but as it turns out, I didn't even need those two dimes. I didn't even need the change.

Fast forward a few days later, which is today, and I'm at the bank. I'm in the ATM machine. I put my ATM card in and I want to get ... and I'm being specific here in order to make a point ... I'm getting $160. Now I see a choice that I hadn't noticed before. The machine asked me, "Will a mixture of 50s and 20s do or do you want all 20s?" I chose a mixture of 50s and 20s.

I walked to my car. I get in my car. I put my hands in my pocket to get my keys out. Out falls one or two bills, so I picked up the one or two bills. Turns out they were all my bills and there were only five bills. I spent a few minutes looking around my car trying to find where the other two 20s are, because you know that five times 20 is 100, and I asked for $160.

Point of fact, I had five bills in my hand and I needed really to be looking for three more bills, but somehow in my brain I'm looking for two more because I think that all I need is 40 more dollars. Then I get the idea that oh my goodness, when I put my hands in my pocket as I left the bank I must have accidentally pulled out those two bills and they're now flying in the wind or somebody has them in their pocket.

I wasn't too concerned about it; I wasn't too frantic about it. I simply decided that if the money was gone, I would simply go back to the ATM machine and get some more. Going back to the ATM machine I was sure that I had asked for $100 after I decided I couldn't find the other 60. I'm sure that I had asked for $100 instead of $160, so I'm thinking in my mind, how could I have pressed 100 instead of 160? Well, no matter; I blew it off.

Anyone that knows me will tell you it is typically my habit to blow things off, and sometimes that costs me and sometimes it doesn't. But, my relationship with God dictates that I will always win. As an extraordinary coach, maybe you don't have a relationship with God. Maybe you don't believe in God. Whatever the case may be, as someone speaking to extraordinary coaches, helping them be more extraordinary, it is my duty to share with you what works for me. As you recall, I often use the technology what works, what's not working, what's next, and what's missing. That's a whole other blog which you will hear later.

I go to the machine, and as I get to the machine I realize that I had chosen the option to get a mixture of 20s and 50s. Then I pulled the bills out of my pocket and look at them, and guess what? Instead of five or six $20 bills that were in my pocket, there were two 50s and three 20s, which is $160, which is what I thought I had, which is what I had. Once again, God had blessed me. Once again, he had given me what I want. Once again, I did not fret because the results were exactly what I wanted.

What about you? As an extraordinary coach, you must teach your clients to always expect the best. You must teach your clients that no matter what it looks like, the best will always come out for them. A wise man said everything works out in the end, and everything does. Everything works out all right in the end, and everything does, which tells you two things. Number one: if things haven't worked out, that means it's not yet the end. Number two: it is going to be all right no matter how it feels now. I ask you if this blog has helped you in any way, please share it with somebody you know, somebody you like, somebody you trust. I end this blog as I love to end all of my blogs, which is for you to have a good time until the next time.

Coaches Corner~Excusitis

Recently, I had the opportunity to once again remind myself that nobody is exempt from the pitfalls of life. No matter how sophisticated you are, how smart you are, or how advanced you are, or how forward thinking you are, you too can fall prey to the assertion that racism is a bigger deal than what it is. You see, racism is a matter of perception because you can't tell what somebody thinks. You can only tell what they do. In fact, we tend to judge other people by what they do and expect people to judge us on what we meant to do. You can see it in your own life. As an extraordinary coach, you probably do things that your clients or maybe even other people might think are questionable. You wonder why they attack you because you have a real good reason for doing what you did. Contrast that to the way that you respond when you see other people do things. Since you don't have a way of telling what their motivation is, then you make your call based on that.

I want to limit my discussion about racism because in my mind I am telling myself that racism is over, and that the only racism left is the kind that we think exists. In fact, when someone complains about racism, my tendency is to think that they are masking an inferiority complex because when you want to do something, or you want to get something that's based solely on your efforts, and you don't put forth the effort to get the results that you want, coming up with racism is just another excuse in my book. All that being true, I myself fell prey to the excuse demon. You may have heard that excusitis is the failure disease, and I was making an excuse for something that I have believed. If you've paid attention, you noticed that there is some talk about Idris Elba, a well-known and liked actor, portraying James Bond in the next James Bond movie. Now, the talk was really about which black actor was going to play James Bond.

I listened to all the comments and read all the stories about why they thought that Idris Elba would not have been the right person to play James Bond and certainly as a producer, director, or someone in control of making a movie, you want to make sure and get the right person for the right job. As I listened to all this talk, I immediately thought that they just didn't want a black person to play James Bond. I stuffed that in the back of my mind. I didn't say it to anybody, but I kept it there, right back there where I have those other things that I don't like to look at. This morning, I'm looking in my Facebook News Feed. I see that they have chosen an actor to play the first black James Bond. It is not Idris Elba and guess what? The person that they choose is the absolute perfect choice.  He is David Oyelowo.   Now, did I say he was black. Of course he's black. The point of the whole search was to find a black James Bond.

Now, Idris Elba is an accomplished actor. I've seen him in things like "The Wire." I've seen him in "Nelson Mandela," but this guy that they picked to play James Bond is the absolute right guy. He's the same guy that played Martin Luther King in the blockbuster movie entitled, "Selma." He's the same guy that played in Lee Daniel's, "The Butler" or whatever that movie is.  He played in the movie about the son of a butler who worked in the White House. I have to say that I strongly agree with the people who made the decision. This guy would make a far better James Bond than Idris Elba. I mean, he's a classy guy. Mind you, Idris is classy as well, but when they described him as being "too street," they described him right. But, it also speaks of Idris Elba's acting ability. They just didn't believe he could do the role justice, and they may have been right.

This other young man, David Oyelowo,
did a great job playing Martin Luther King. Now, those of you that know who Martin Luther King was, you've got to know that Martin Luther King and James Bond are about as far apart as night and day, but it speaks to this actor's ability to play a part. They must've evaluated him, they did a screen test. They must've spoke to him but whatever it is that they did, they picked him to be the first black James Bond. Now, maybe they thought that whoever the first black James Bond was was some sort of a trailblazer or trendsetter, and he was beating the path for black people in the past or maybe they just simply wanted to make a good movie. Whatever your insecurities are as an extraordinary coach, always be on the lookout to not let them get in the way of you taking care of your clients. Remember our tendency to look good and be right because it is that tendency of looking good and being right that's caused me to miss the point.

I wasted several moments feeling victimized because Idris Elba wasn't chosen to be James Bond. I am the one who took that whole situation and made it about the color of the skin. No longer was I even considering that they were evaluating an actor based on his ability, which in fact, they were. I immediately thought, no matter what the words said. The words clearly said that they were looking for a black actor to play James Bond. For some reason, because they excluded Idris Elba, I wanted to think that they didn't want a black dude to do it, or I wanted to think that they just wanted to have an excuse to not have a black dude because they couldn't find the right one. I tell you, making excuses is an insidious disease. I hope to be cured of excusitis very, very soon. My hope is for you as an extraordinary coach to be excused of excusitis. If you are fortunate enough to have been healed of excusitis, let me tell you this, your clients have not so continue to be an extraordinary coach. Continue to heal your clients of excusitis and move onto that place where you know that you belong.

Now, if this blog has helped you or caused you to have any new thoughts, I would love for you to share it with someone. I end this blog like I end all the blogs, and that is, you have yourself a good time until the next time.

Coaches Corner~Sin

We must forever be mindful of the contradictions and the disparity that exists in our life. It seems that the people who say that there's no pure truth or no pure right and wrong, it seems like they may have a point. If you will look at your own life as an extraordinary coach or just as a regular person, you will see disparity that exists as well.

I bring this up because recently there's been a news story where a woman in Kentucky decided that she was not going to issue a marriage license to a gay couple. Now, certainly she is free to do whatever she wants and whether or not she does her job is between her and her supervisor. However, she cited God's law as the authority for her to not issue gay licenses.

In the world that we live in, certainly we take some persecution for sharing Christ. We take some persecution as being Christians, but since our religion, our relationship with God, dictates that we are forgiving souls, we don't take any of that personal. We just figure that we are being criticized for the glory of God and that's okay with us and that's okay with God.

When you put a spotlight on yourself, and people can see you in a bigger light than which you normally are seen in, you have to expect certain things to come up. I mean, even in the Bible it says, "What's done in the dark will come out in the light." While Christians like myself applaud her efforts for denying to issue a gay license for marriage, well, some of us have a lot more to the story.

The licensing for a wedding is actually a state function and in my world, the Bible says, "Give to Caesar what is due Caesar." If the state is issuing licenses, that doesn't have anything to do with God and I say that because I want you to know that my tendency is to issue the gay licenses, even though I can applaud the statement that she's trying to make because, like her, I believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. This issue of a marriage being between a man and a woman is not a black-and-white issue. There are varying degrees of gray running the continuum of yes or no. The politicization of this issue is simply something that is being used by politicians to further their goals of being elected. To put more money into their coffers, to further divide the populace, because you know if you divide the populace, you can sell them anything.

In case you're wondering where this blog is going, I'll make it clear for you now. The point of this blog is not to criticize the woman for what she's doing, but the point of this blog is to have us, as extraordinary coaches, examine our own selves and see if there are paradoxes that exists in our life and do what we can to line up what we say with what we do. To line up what we say and do in one situation with what we say and do in every situation. This woman, now, has gotten herself under the microscope and things about her have come to light that make it clear that she has paradoxes in her life. Don't you be the one whose paradoxes are identified under the scrutiny of the world stage. Get in touch with your paradoxes and your contradictions right now.

Let's talk a little about hers. She says that she's a godly woman. She says that by the authority of God, she's not going to issue these marriage licenses. Now she's famous and she's on television and if that's what she wants, she has achieved her goal, but I suspect that this woman is serious about her assertion that marriage is between a man and a woman. I think that she is sincere in her contradiction, in her opposition, to such a thing. I really do. I think she was equally sincere when she got divorced twice and remarried. Now the Bible talks about what God has put together, let no man put asunder. Is that real or isn't it real? I think that when she gave birth to twins five months after getting divorced from her second husband and is with her first husband, I think that, too, is at odds with what the word of God says.

Those of us that are Christians just reading this blog, remember. Remember the most critical thing in the Bible. There are two critical things in the Bible. The number one critical thing in the Bible is to love your neighbor as yourself. Thou shall love the Lord thy God with all they heart, with all they mind, and with all they soul, and this is the first and great commandment. The second is like unto it which is to love your neighbor as yourself. No place in the Bible does it give us a license to criticize. Not only that, if you have read any of my other blogs, you will know that criticism and complaining do nothing except make you feel worse. Finally, the verse in the Bible that addresses this more than anything else, is to let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Refusing to issue a marriage license to a couple that has been certified by the state to be qualified to marry? Guess what. That is throwing a stone.

I hope I've given you some new things to think about in this blog. I hope I've given you some new conversation pieces in this blog. I certainly hope this blog has helped you and that you pass this blog along to someone you care about. I end this blog just like I end all the rest of them, which is have yourself a good time until the next time.

Coaches Corner~Money

Trust and integrity are siblings when it comes to your coaching relationship. I'm talking about the relationship between you and your client. In the self-employment industry when we collect our own fees, when our clients pay us individually, sometimes the payment is not on time. Many of us have issues around money and issues around time. This blog is speaking about our issues around money.

Let me preface my statement by saying that any issue that you have surrounding money has to do with your worth, your self-concept, how you feel about yourself. When you have a well-integrated self-esteem and self-concept, then you know that you deserve to have money. When you have a great self-concept, your desire is to give rather than to get, and in order for you to give, you have to have money, so you can buy things to give or so that you can give to people.

Money is an exchange in value, and when you are confident that you deliver the appropriate value to your customers or your clients, you have no misgivings about asking to be compensated.

In business, though, from time to time, people don't pay their bills. From time to time, you have to wait before you are paid. If you are a business coach, an extraordinary business coach like I am, then you may have clients who are not able to pay you because their clients didn't pay them.

I started off this blog talking about trust and integrity, and here is where that becomes an issue. You must have the assurance that when your clients have the money to pay you, they are going to pay you. You must never entertain the thought that your clients are simply not paying you because they don't want to or because you don't deserve to be paid. You deserve to be paid and you might find yourself confident enough to ask for your money when it's time for you to be paid.

On the rare occasion that you are not paid, though, well now it's time to see how your trust and integrity quotient really is. Do you trust that your client has the money to pay you? Do you trust that your client will pay you? Presumably, you have a contract in place and certainly those contracts carry some weight, but we don't want to have a relationship with a client that's based solely on a contract. That's why you need to make sure that you resonate with your clients before they even become your clients. You must make sure that you and your clients have an understanding. You never want to get into a wrestling match with a client about money.

Not being clear on money also impacts the kind of coach that you are. Say for instance you're coaching a guy and you see him every week, and a week ago you were due to be paid and you weren't paid. You call the customer up and you are making arrangements for your regularly scheduled coaching session. How do you feel?

Right. You want to ask him where your money is, don't you? You want to ask him why haven't you been paid, don't you? Well, last time you checked with him, he was having issues with his customers paying him and he had accounts receivables and he just wasn't able to pay you.

In this instance you don't need to spend time calling your client every day to ask him when you're going to be paid if you have trust and integrity. You simply wait your turn until he gets paid and then you will be paid.

On the other hand, if you find yourself relying on your clients paying you in order for your life to move forward, in order for your business to move forward, then it's time that you get some more clients.

Yes, trust and integrity is important when it comes to money issues. You must trust that your client is going to pay you, so you don't really have to harass him about being paid, and you must have your regularly scheduled coaching sessions without being concerned about when you're going to get paid. If it turns out that you need to be concerned about when you're going to get paid, then the answer is the same. As an extraordinary coach, get yourself more clients.

It's amazing how many solutions there are in getting yourself more clients. Now, if this blog has helped you in any way, shape, form or fashion, I'd love for you to share it with somebody. I end this blog I end all of my blogs. Until the next time, have a good time.

Coaches Corner~Pastime

When you discover that there is a method to some kind of madness, it is a bit like getting money.  It can also be likened to getting a breath of fresh air.  If you are new to coaching or even if you have coached for a while, you pick up a book like How To Build A Million Dollar Practice and you learn that there is a way to make coaching profitable.  Learning new things can certainly help with our chosen vocation but learning in itself does not produce increase in our bottom line.  When we learn something, one of the natural outcomes is that we want to put it into practice.  Do you remember the erector sets from the early 60’s?  It was a toy that helped you build something like a bridge or an elaborate box after some difficulty with the screws and metal parts.  Figuring out how a certain technology works can also be fun.  Embarking on the coaching track has as its outcome a phenomenal income for those who are able to balance their skill of coaching with running a business.  But the fact is that many coaches end up coaching as a hobby rather than a profession.

When we want to be a coach and we have capital to invest, we may opt for one of the certification programs that are available.  They are heavy on academics and things for one to remember but the true nature of coaching involves some type of methodology which is absent in many of those programs.  The methodology of being a coach is predictable and is the foundation of being an extraordinary coach.  You absolutely cannot be an extraordinary coach unless you make great income being a coach.  Perhaps it does not happen right away but embracing the particular methodology is critical if you ever are going to succeed.  I was working with a potential client recently who told me of the headaches associated with coaching some close friends or family members and I sympathized with her because going to the trouble to think through an individual’s dilemma, thinking about it and maybe even doing some research, and giving them a solution to their problem seems futile when the person acts as if you said and did nothing.  Coaching methodology can eliminate some of that because there is a way to engage clients that all but guarantee they will heed your advice.  And advice is not the ticket anyway but it is more than likely that leading them to their solution would be a better situation.

Coaching as a hobby feels great when it works as most hobbies do.  But after a time even a hobby can be tiring once you decide you want to do it for money.  Many hobbies turn into careers for some but it is never like falling off of a log.  There comes a time when you take the leap and decide it is not a hobby anymore and when that time comes, you had better have a methodology in mind.   If you have a job, that is a 9 to 5, and you want to transition into coaching, then plan on it being a hobby for a time and use it to get a history with people you know but do it with a specific result in mind.  Make sure that you have resources to sustain you because hobbies do not pay you, you pay for them.  Be honest enough with yourself to admit when it is a hobby for you because only you know the truth.  The people benefiting from your coaching don’t care if it is only a hobby and the people who are not benefiting are probably not even noticing that they are being coached.  At this point it is helpful to remind you of several things about coaching that make it a worthwhile career and a worthwhile hobby.  Coaches bring three things to the table and there is not student-teacher relationship in coaching.  They are 1)  An outside objective opinion, 2)  An accountability partner and 3)  New results that have not been present before.  When you take on coaching as a career, keep in mind that a person paying you to do those three things will find you extremely valuable as you deliver those things to them in spades.  And by the time, coaching is no longer a hobby but a beneficial career, you will have seemingly through osmosis, become an extraordinary coach.

If this has helped you, please pass it on to someone else and until the next time, have a good time.

Coaches Corner~Happiness

This blog received surprisingly few views so I am releasing it today under a slightly different heading.  I hope you like it and look forward to your comments.

Today, we want to talk about "happy."  Everyone is familiar with the famous song, if you're happy, clap your hands. It has a real nice, catchy melody to it, and everybody likes singing it. Let's talk a little bit about happy. Let's talk about happy in terms of your being an extraordinary coach. Let's talk about happy in terms of your clients, that you have, who are looking for happiness.

While everyone is talking about happiness, they seldom realize the gravity of the many statements that we make, concerning happiness. For instance, we say, if we find the right person to make us happy, then, we'll have a relationship with that person. If we say that, we find the right job, to make us happy, then, we're going to take that job. Just lately, we are finding out that, as long as you don't hurt anyone, and it makes you happy, then it's okay to do it.

No matter how ridiculous the thing is, or how ridiculous the activity is, the goal is to be happy. When we make happiness our goal, we're also saying that happiness is not our present state. Since many people live their lives pursuing happiness ... And even our constitution, tells us, that we are guaranteed for life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness ... The one underlying thing that no one has talked about, up until now, is if you are looking for happiness, then what do you have now?

What do you have now? The corollary is, you're not happy, right now. If you're not happy right now, you're going to do something. People who are happy, do nothing, and that's an inferred reality, and it may even be true. What about you? Are you happy? Do you make your clients happy? Do you think that your clients could be happy without your help? As a coach ... Either being an extraordinary coach, or aspiring to be an extraordinary coach ... Happiness is not something that you must seek. Happiness is something that you must provide.

I recently was on a vacation with my wife in San Diego. We both like the Hotel Del Coronado, or the Hotel Del, which was the setting of the movie My Blue Heaven, with Steve Martin. I was standing there, looking at the store, where they have tablecloths, on sale. The tablecloths were $80, and an apron just like the tablecloth, was $40. The question is, what are you serving on the table, that the tablecloth, costs $80?

That's not the real question. The real question is, who would buy a tablecloth, that costs $80?  I'll tell you who will buy a tablecloth that costs $80. That's one, a person who has $80, and two, that's a person who's going to be happy after they make the purchase.

As I'm standing watching this person purchase a tablecloth for $80, somebody walks by me with an odd looking haircut. A really odd looking haircut. If I can describe it for you, most of the hair was shaved off the head, and there was a braid ... There was just enough hair in the top of the head ... To, braid, the blond hair, coming down the back of the head. I say to my wife, it is interesting how people with "stupid" ideas, or stupid behavior, also have a gene for getting their feelings hurt.

In other words, they also have a gene for not being happy. The implication is, wearing your hair that way, would make you happy, and that's why you do it. But, the minute someone challenges the sensibility of having that haircut that way, you revert back to your normal state. Which is, not happiness. The point I want to make in this blog is, realize that the human state is one, of being unhappy. Realize that the only way that people are going to do something, generally speaking, is if they think, it's going to make them happy.

Finally, the biggest deal is, as an extraordinary coach, you must be your happiest, when you're coaching. You must be your happiest, when you're helping someone. Now mind you, you have to be happy all the time, but you're your happiest, when you're helping somebody out. When the comments start coming about doing something that's going to make you happy. Or living a life that's going to make you happy. Or purchasing something, that's going to make you happy, those of us that are coaches ... Extraordinary coaches ... We need to change that to happier, or happiest, because we have already decided in our life, that we are happy.

The dirty little secret that the people who do things and buy things, and say things, to make themselves happy, is that, the only requirement to being happy, is to decide to be happy. Let's decide to be happy as coaches, and if you don't have a coach, let's decide that getting a coach, is going to make you happy. I'm ending now ... As I like to end all of my blogs ... Have a good time, until next time.

Coaches Corner~Politics

There is a lot of talk of mindset and this is never more crucial than in the coaching arena.  As a coach, much of what you do impacts your client’s mindset and in fact it has to.  If you cannot sign off on this simple concept and you do not have a coach, this is a clear indication that you need a coach.  And if you are a coach, your client can benefit from the introduction to the importance of their mindset.  Developing your methodology for coaching, understanding the need for coaching and setting the goals in your business are all influenced by the mindset.  With so much riding on the mindset, you would think there was a step by step process that one could adopt so that the “mindset” problem could be taken care of.  You have all heard a list of the top sales objections and how to eliminate them, haven’t you?  Well such a thing is not possible for the mindset as it is much more individualized and situational.

I find that I have a tendency to feel accused whenever someone does something other than put on the uniform, adorn the pom-poms and scream, “Go, Victor, Go…..Yeah!!!  Victor!”  And while the cheerleaders show up less frequently than I would like, I have conditioned my mind to turn the slightest compliment to make me feel like they did show up.  Quite often, though, the opposite happens.  I enjoy spirited conversation and I was having one with my friend, Carl, just the other day.  He was once again telling me about an experience he had and how he handled it.  It was not that big a deal but he was saying that he would not just “Roll over and wet himself” but instead take charge of the situation.  Since he handled it differently than I would, I did not pass GO, did not get two hundred dollars and went straight to the part where he was calling me a sissy or something less than a man.  Here is my friend for nearly twenty years and really has showed me in more ways than one that he cares for me but I felt victimized because of something that he said.  Chances are he was expressing himself and was not attacking me at all but because of my mindset, I took it personally.  Have you had a similar experience?

During this upcoming political season, many friendships will be lost and there will be lots of fights.  The reason for this is unclear except to say that we all want to be right.  Assessment of our current president range from him doing a fantastic job to him being the worst president ever.  How can that be so when all persons sharing an opinion have lived in this country the whole time?  The reason is also simple.  Two people can examine the same data and come up with two completely different ideas of what went on.  Have you witnessed an accident along with another person and then disagreed with what happened?  Of course you have as have I.  Our minds play weird tricks on us in that whatever thought we are or were having tends to find comfort in the very next thought.  And the more thoughts we have had of a certain ilk, the more we will have.  Our minds, that is, our subconscious minds work 100% of the time to validate what we think about a particular thing.  What we think of is our own doing at first, then it happens automatically.  Quantum physics tells us that when we look at something, what we look at changes and that is why we see things so differently. 

I have had talks with folks who say they are being objective and that is not even possible.  Being objective is a card we play when we are masking our own feelings about a particular thing.  But until we can take ourselves completely out of a situation, we can never be objective.  One of the distinctions of business coaching is that of our likely story.  We all have one and it is used to explain away all the disappointments and shortcomings in our lives.  It is often subconscious and we are not present to it.  As you coach your clients, keep in mind their story about coaches and the person you are in general is impacting the effect your coaching has on them.  Make no mistake about it, you are helping them because what you do, they can never do.  The first thing you are doing for them is providing a different view than their own, you are holding them accountable and you are creating a result they could never have without you.  The point of today’s blog is to realize in your practice that everyone wants the best even when it does not look like it.  Your clients may have some resistance to your helping them and you are able to manage that.  Your mindset will determine how you manage to separate you from your own mindset.  If you cannot do that, you will not be as effective a coach as you can be.  That is reason number 1 for having your own coach.  Like your client, you can’t know what you don’t know until you find out.

If this has helped you, please forward to someone you care about and I end this blog as I end all my blogs, have a good time until next time.